Coming of Age Ceremony

Needed:

  • 2 smaller candles (the colors should be chosen by the member, to represent their view of childhood and their view of adulthood)
  • Candle holders, matches and a candle snuffer
  • Oil (either personal oil or another scent chosen by the member)
  • Bell

Clothing Colors:

  • Council and Staff: Black
  • Celebrant: White

The circle is cast.

The Guardian of the North rings their bell once, stating: “Element of earth, welcome to our ceremony. Powers of earth, lend your strength and stability to this ritual, gift us with your special abilities. Enter here and welcome on this momentous occasion.”

The Guardian of the East rings their bell once, stating: “Element of air, welcome to our ceremony. Powers of air, lend your strength and stability to this ritual, gift us with your special abilities. Enter here and welcome on this momentous occasion.”

The Guardian of the South rings their bell once, stating: “Element of fire, welcome to our ceremony. Powers of fire, lend me your strength and stability to this ritual, gift us with your special abilities. Enter here and welcome on this momentous occasion.”

The Guardian of the West rings their bell once, stating: “Element of water, welcome to our ceremony. Powers of water, lend your strength and stability to this ritual, gift us with your special abilities. Enter here and welcome on this momentous occasion.”

Once the circle has been cast and the quarters, Ebony will state the intent of the gathering:
"In the name of the Holy Mother and Divine Lord, I, EbonyDoe, and my High Priest, (Name), enter this sacred circle for the purpose of honoring the passage of time and coming of age of (member). We welcome you into this circle."

High Priest: "No one asked you if you wanted to grow up:
Nature forced you.
But now, each day you will choose how to fulfill this new-acquired responsibility.
Don't blame Nature, but thank Her, for the unimaginable gift She's forced on you,
the gift of something to match yourself against,
the gift of a challenge to meet.
Relax, though; I know you can do it.”

Evoke the God/Goddess
EbonyDoe: "With hands open in giving and receiving,
We come to you confidently,
All-Gods.
Join us this day/night,
Join us in this rite of passage
We ask humbly and confidently.”

The member is to be presented to the deities and their given legal name is stated. At this time the member will anoint themselves with the oil

EbonyDoe: "Great Spirits, in this sacred space, we present to you (member's legal name), who we brought into our family as (member's old magick name/legal name). We ask for your presence and blessings, as he/she brings his/her life into young adulthood.”

The member should light one of the small candles to represent the flame of life that has been lit within them.

Accepting the Rite of Passage
The member becomes the center of attention, but should stay calm and focused. Ensure that they understand they don't have to be perfect, if they make a mistake it's OK.

EbonyDoe: "In the name of the Great Spirits, are you, (member's old magick name), ready to accept the spiritual path of the ancient ways, living in the divine light of the God/Goddess?”

Member: Answers

EbonyDoe: "Are you ready to accept the pagan credo as your law to live by?”

Member: Answers

EbonyDoe: "Are you willing to take on the responsibilities of adulthood to proclaim your own spiritual path and do you do so now?”

Member: Answers

Presumably the member answers all questions with a yes.

From Childhood to Adulthood
The member is required to recite their chosen credo, written in verse by the member. One that puts in their own words what they are accepting as their law to live by. The member understands what he/she is accepting, understanding the importance and reverence of their commitment. It demonstrates their level of magickal knowledge, showing they can write their own ritualistic program or prayer. It shows the member has indeed matured to a level that they can conduct a ritual on their own with confidence and grace. (It doesn't have to be perfect. This is the biggest confidence builder for a new pagan, so encourage them no matter how many mistakes you think they make.)

The member stands before their altar and lights the second ritual candle, as a sign they have accepted the commitment of the pagan path.

Then turning to the gathering, the member recites their personally written credo.

After the member states their credo, the member should take a moment to declare their deities as they turn around and light the center ritual candle to signify his/her dedication to the spirit.

Member: "From today forward, I call upon (deities), for their wisdom and guidance on my path through this spiritual life. Blessings be to Thee."

Then the member lights the candle.

Closing
Guardian of the West: “Element of water, thank you for your participation in our ritual. Peace be with you and harm none on your way. Power of water, thank you for your special gifts. Go if you must, stay if you like. Hail and farewell!”

Guardian of the South: “Element of fire, thank you for your participation in our ritual. Peace be with you and harm none on your way. Power of fire, thank you for your special gifts. Go if you must, stay if you like. Hail and farewell!”

Guardian of the East: “Element of air, thank you for your participation in our ritual. Peace be with you and harm none on your way. Power of air, thank you for your special gifts. Go if you must, stay if you like. Hail and farewell!”

Guardian of the North: “Element of earth, thank you for your participation in our ritual. Peace be with you and harm none on your way. Power of earth, thank you for your special gifts. Go if you must, stay if you like. Hail and farewell! Everything comes from the north!”

Mana: "Our thanks and gratitude to the forces that be present, to the Lord and Lady, the guides and guardians. This circle is open, but never broken. Merry meet and merry part until we merry meet again. Blessings be to all."